“I’m not ______ enough.”
“The universe is unfriendly.”
“I’m not worthy of ______ (something good).”
“I can’t be comfortable in my own skin.”
“I’m an imposter.”
Those are examples of untruths many people absorb as they go through life. Virtually all of us carry some untruths, and I’m learning that the prudent reaction is to unlearn such falsehoods.
Here’s how:
AWARENESS > ACCEPTANCE > ALTERNATIVES
The first step is to become aware of your untruths. The best way to do this is to find alone time each day to invite every contractive belief you hold to rise to the surface.
Contractive beliefs are centered around low-frequency emotions such as fear, anger, guilt or shame. They cause you to move away from things, rather than towards them. “Those people are dangerous” is a contractive belief. So is “I did a shameful thing.”
Your first job is to be aware. That’s it.
Ideally, you’ll write down or record everything that comes up for you.
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Next, accept these beliefs and feelings. This doesn’t mean accept them as truths. It means accept their existence and their presence within you.
Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions you associate with these elements. Be courageous enough to be sad, frustrated, lonely, fearful, ashamed or whatever else you need to feel.
It is healthy to process your emotions; it is dangerous to bury them deep inside you.
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Third, explore alternative ways of moving through the world. Lean towards expansive, high frequency beliefs and emotions such as gratitude, joy, compassion, forgiveness and trust. Embrace more positive beliefs such as “the universe is friendly” and “I am blessed with everything I need.”
Experience teaches me that we do not all live in the same reality. Yes, we inhabit the same physical world, but there are low vs. high pathways through this world and they are built on certain energetic states.
That is, just as there is a difference between taking an interstate highway versus a meandering country road, there is a difference between traveling through life angry and jealous vs. happy and grateful.
For reasons I don’t fully understand, many aspects of human society teach us to take the low frequency, contractive pathways. You need to unlearn such habits.
Instead, chose to live as a positive, upbeat, grateful, curious and welcoming human being. This choice will literally change the path you take through life; it is not a rationalization, but rather a fundamental shift in how things work out for you.
Your ego may reject what I am telling you. It may create thoughts that suggest my words are superficial, nonsensical, ineffective or irrelevant babble. This is because your ego doesn’t want to change. Your fears don’t want to let go of you.
To unlearn limiting beliefs, you must take a giant leap of faith.
I no longer encourage people to follow such well-meaning advice as I am sharing today. Instead, I accept that when you are ready, you will take the healthiest steps for your own good. Please accept this issue in that spirit: no obligations, no expectations.
Thank you, Bruce - your comment that you no longer encourage people to follow your advice, and let them come to it (or not) in their own time is an instantaneous game changer for me. For those of us who strive to lead lives steeped in joy and laughter, it's easy to KNOW we have it right...the unspoken caveat is that it's right for US. Each person has their own path to travel and I sincerely thank you for bending my reality enough today to enable me to see this💕.
Bruce, when you first started on the "Bend Reality" path I was, to say the least, skeptical. However, I decided to open myself to the possibilities you were describing. I'm nowhere near where you are this journey and I'm not ready to fully share with others yet because I still have some skepticism, but I find that I can't disagree with your points. Just wanted to let you know that I and probably many others are taking these steps with you. We're just not vocal about it yet. And, I do mean "yet." I know the time will come when I have a better grasp of the concepts you are putting forth. It's just taking me a little time to get out of my own way. ;-)